It is prevalent in today’s generation that people tend to live to the fullest. (YOLO)
While there’s nothing wrong with that, it depends on what is the measure of your fullest (I hope it’s not the fullest of your pocket)
Happiness comes from within and should be a way of life. When people are addicted to materials things or have uncontrollable spending habits, that is where it becomes dangerous for the people around them.
I’m seeing this everywhere. This is one of the reasons why couples today are separating or leaving the responsibilities in raising their kids to their parents.
Most of them are afraid of the financial obligations in building a family. It is not incapability but rather an ignorance. And instead of committing themselves to grow in that certain aspect, they would choose comfort and deny the problems that comes with it.
What am I saying is, couples decide to end their relationships or most of them are broken because one or both of them neglect the fact that they need to come up with a certain plan before tying the knot or in most cases have a child.
Before entering a relationship, it is better that you study the person you are dealing with. If in case that you went in the relationship without doing so, try to be familiar with everything your partner is doing. After all, if you want to marry the person you ought to know first.
In a financial perspective, study your partner’s financial behavior. Their expenses, income, capability and mindset. It has an impact in the long run.
There’s a saying, “what is, will be”. Don’t try to guess anymore because if he is not disciplined enough in his own finances, what more to bigger responsibilities. Falling into a wishful thinking that he will change when you love him is like saying a miracle will happen.
Yes, it’s possible but chances are low. Especially when your partner’s attitude is not for growth but more for comfort.
Just think about it, you will be with this person for the rest of your life. If you are miserable already or having doubts about the person’s capability to deliver, then think some more. Talk it through and set a commitment. If you think that you can live with the terms, then that’s good.
I’d like to share with you this bible passage that inspires me to help people in this subject.
Learn to love appropriately. You need to use your head and test your feelings so that your love is sincere and intelligent. Not sentimental gush. Philippians 1: 9 – 10